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  • Writer's pictureKathleen Kerr

From Stuck to Unstuck: Overcoming Project Paralysis

This month let's delve into a common yet seldom discussed phenomenon: feeling stuck. It's a scenario many of us know all too well. You embark on a new project or goal with zeal, only to find yourself mired in a motivational quagmire partway through.


The symptoms of project paralysis are all too familiar to me. Initially, there's a disconnection from the goal, leading to indifference and a slew of excuses for neglecting necessary tasks. Then comes the onslaught of critical self-talk, masquerading as a twisted form of motivation, which only serves to sap my energy further. I've often turned to friends and family during these times, seeking solace in their sympathy and inadvertently trying to draw them into my vortex of inertia. Over time, however, they've grown wise to my patterns, rendering my usual tactics ineffective.


On a recent occasion of feeling stuck, a friend's simple question cut through the noise: "What are you afraid of?", This prompted a pivotal shift in my approach. Instead of combating my inner critic with defiance, I chose to listen, to truly hear the underlying fears and concerns. This act of listening revealed a deep-seated fear of failure and the daunting prospect of not living up to my own expectations.


The breakthrough came when I realized that engaging with my fears through curious, open-minded questioning could disarm them. By examining and challenging the validity of these fears, I began to melt away the paralysis that had held me captive. This process helped me realign with my core values and embrace the notion that doing our best varies from moment to moment. It reminded me that starting afresh is always an option and that detachment from outcomes can liberate us to enjoy the journey, trusting that each step forward is a step closer to our goal.


Embracing this mindset reignited my motivation and filled me with the energy to dive back into my project with renewed vigor.


So, if you find yourself stuck, remember: the key to unlocking your potential and reigniting your drive lies in engaging with your fears, asking the right questions, and listening to the answers. Each step, no matter how small, is progress. And sometimes, it's the gentle, introspective approach that leads us back to our path, warmed by the glow of newfound motivation and ready to tackle our projects anew.

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